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Comment on 10 Bill of Rights for those Grieving by Missing someone special

Missing someone special — Tue, 01 Feb 2011 01:51:51 +0000

Thankyou for this post. My baby sister was killed by her drunk driving boyfriend this year. It has been horrible and a nightmare and just plain old awful. The worst is the infighting in my own family. My mother and a few other family members believe that I should support my mothers wishes and actions regardless of my feelings because “she is grieving”. While I respect her loss (and pray every day that my child stay safe) I still have my own Grief to work through. I have to take care of myself. It’s just nice to read something which supports this. So thankyou.

Comment on Choppy Thoughts for Grieving, Part 2 by Pat Bluth

Pat Bluth — Mon, 20 Sep 2010 23:33:13 +0000

Frances, The story goes one foot forward and two back. The first year is so hard because there are so many firsts to face. You sound to me like you are going through the normal stages of grief. Don’t give up on yourself. There will be good days to come.

Comment on Tips for family and friends of someone grieving by Pat Bluth

Pat Bluth — Mon, 20 Sep 2010 23:31:35 +0000

I Agree it is hard for people to listen. They would rather share their story. One at a time, please. Hope you can find one or two people that will just listen to you. Keep trying to find that gem.

Comment on Tips for family and friends of someone grieving by ashley

ashley — Mon, 20 Sep 2010 23:24:15 +0000

You are so correct! I’ve had wonderful, caring people TALK at me the whole conversation. I hate to say this, but I have found this with other grieving mothers, who have years on me. Sometimes if I could just talk… oddly I find myself calling my x-husband (my daughters dad) when I feel no one else understands. This is a very good post & I really agree. thanks Pat!!

Comment on Choppy Thoughts for Grieving, Part 2 by Frances Smith

Frances Smith — Mon, 20 Sep 2010 22:20:55 +0000

It has been 9 months and I have experienced every symptom. I think about my son all day long…some smiles and alot of tears. He was killed by a drunk driver. Some days I feel I am doing well and some days I feel I am going backwards.

Comment on Choppy Thoughts for Grieving, part 1 by Linda

Linda — Mon, 20 Sep 2010 21:31:39 +0000

Thank you so much for sharing your insight! My big brother (and only sibling) was killed by a drunk driver last November, and I’m still experiencing most of these symptoms… especially the memory loss and lack of concentration.

Comment on Welcome to my Blog by Pat Bluth

Pat Bluth — Tue, 07 Sep 2010 19:17:46 +0000

Frances,
My sympathies to you for the death of your son. All too often people are driving drunk all hours of the day. We often think it only happens after the bars close, but as of your case, it was in the morning. You will never forget your son, so hang on to the memories.

Comment on Welcome to my Blog by Frances Smith

Frances Smith — Wed, 01 Sep 2010 22:07:35 +0000

My precious son was killed by a drunk driver on 12/7/2009…my birthday. He was sitting at a stop light at 1045 in the morning and was hit by a drunk 4x the legal limit. He was 29 years old and still lived at home with me. I miss him him tremendously. He was a good son…never drank or drugs. The man is in jail and hopefully going to trial soon.